“The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” St. Paul

“I know what to do, I just can’t do it!” This is the cry I hear so frequently. People know that love will serve them the best. They know that arguments, disgruntlement, and yearning for what they don’t have serves them poorly. They yearn for peace, contentment, positive engagement, and the desire for what they already have.

But, the flesh is weak, as Paul groaned long before we came along.

Perhaps we are truly “spirits having as human experience,” but we are all burdened with an ancient survival mechanism at the top of our brain stem. From it ushers the “fight or flight” response (more of a reaction for most of us!)

It is this survival mechanism that reacts to perceived threat of peril. The fearful, knee-jerk reaction to loss of prestige, possessions or financial security catches most of us on a daily basis. A comment from a spouse, or child, or friends can and does bring about emotional responses all out of proportion with the event itself, often due to the inner triggering of unconscious memories of pain and trauma.

Hence, we are willing to be good and loving people of the Light, but it so often just plain goes wrong.

Henri Nouwen, the beloved monk and teacher, said that “we all have an address with God, but we are so infrequently at that address, to be addressed by God.” This is what the survival mechanism does. It takes us away from the “home address” into a far away country called Fear.

At Centered Life we endeavor to help people learned to be at their home address. We call this being “centered” in life, where we can experience Spirit, know God’s lively presence, and have the satisfaction of the “peace that passes all understanding.”

All our traditions have ways of seeking this path. The Mystics led the way, but all of us can practice behavior that enhances spiritual perspective and leads to security from all those “survival issues” knocking at the door.

The traditional paths are meditation and prayer, worship and adoration, and works of kindness and service.

I hope that you will pursue such ways as habitual practices. However, I’d like to offer a couple of quick start methods right now:

First, go sit in the bathroom (yes, the bathroom! It’s a prayer closet available to you multiple times each day.) Then close your eyes and slowly count backwards from 30 to 1. If you don’t feel a little more peaceful, then do the counting backwards again, and possibly again. As long as you keep your eyes closed and count backwards, your brain will go to the lower, more centered brain waves you experience when you read a novel. It’s a great way to initiate a quiet reflective prayer in the middle of a hectic day.

Second, each evening, just before bed, for 30 days, make a short list of what you are grateful for from that day. It is the rare person that doesn’t start feeling better from this ongoing “attitude of gratitude.”

Simple stuff, but not exactly easy to get yourself to do it. But it works! So, give it a try, and give that willing spirit a chance to rise above your survival instincts.

Sometimes something really wonderful comes along and you
just have to pass it on.

I thank Jennifer (you know who you are)
for sending me to this video clip today.

It’s Joe Vitale speaking about an
amazing way of cleaning up your relationships,
especially your relationship to yourself
and to the Divine.

Nothing to sign up for, Nothing to buy.

Cool!

http://offto.net/Hooponopono/

Enjoy! I sure did!
Steve

Prairie Dog season has Arrived

March Madness has sunken into March Sadness - 3 cartridges, 2 less prairie dogs

by reporter Kanwe Talk

South of Florissant, Colorado. An apparent skirmish has been fought in what is likely the opening saga of this year’s prairie dog tragedy. A patrol from the Organization for the Protection of Galloping Horse Appendages (OPOGHA) was scouting the terrain claimed by the Prairie Dog Homeland Front(PGHF) when they were surprised by an uprising of two early season prairie dogs.

Shots were fired. PGHF forces sustained two casualties. When the leader of the OPOGHA patrol was asked if PGHF warriors returned fire he said, “It doesn’t matter. They were in the wrong place at the wrong time.”

Apparently, the OPOGHA patrol was on scout duty while harrowing the horse pastures. They expected no activity on the part of the prairie dogs this early in the season but were armed and prepared should it occur.

Pfc. Roberts stated for no particular record, “It was necessary but one sided. I regret the carnage, but would do it again for the sake of God and Horses. I’m patriotic, after all.” Asked if he thought a peaceful coexistence was possible he said, “Very unlikely. We’ll have to kill many before they are willing to relocate.”

This reporter reached the office of the Prairie Dog League for comment, “This was an aggressive act upon unarmed civilians by a militaristic power with no negotiating skills,” stated Chairman Upstanding. “Further, horses should be smart enough to learn not to step in prairie dog holes. It destroys our front doors as well as our back doors and creates confusion when the horse falls from a broken leg. The earthquake is devastating. PTSD is a real risk for our young ones.”

Unfortunately, these sentiments are not shared at the OPOGHA headquarters. Gen. Shoot’mded spoke officiously, “We support the desire for a Prairie Dog Homeland. However, we do not adhere to the historical precedent of many centuries of land occupation. Modern law is clear. Land held for the use of horses must not be dug into and littered with holes that create traps for the unwary equine creature. The prairie dogs may establish their Homeland a half mile South from the site in question.”

Asked about accounts that the OPOGHA had unintentionally destroyed numerous civilian prairie dog home entrances, Gen. Shoot’mded replied, “This is just so false. We definitely, with great intention, destroyed those doors. Harrowing is not just to break up the turds those horses always leave all over (this keeps down the flies, another enemy we mean to eliminate), but it also shows the prairie dogs our firm intention. They will come to realize that if they do not emigrate southward we will further desecrate their sacred living grounds until no prairie dog will be able to live or worship there.”

This investigator wanted to know if the horses had been consulted in this mission on their behalf, “We’re doing this for their own good. They just wander around not even thinking about the prairie dogs. Then they step in a hole and down they go. It is self-evident that the two species cannot coexist together and that humans must be the correcting force.”

When the PGHF forces were located to ask for their side of the story, they chose not to comment, apparently because they were dead.

In an apparent move to placate the environmentalists, the bodies were left lying in the field for scavengers to find. Additionally, Pfc. Roberts reported the third shot was necessary for humanitarian reasons, “I couldn’t stand watching those wiggling death throws. I had to end it more quickly.”

Boundaries 101

The quickest way to increase your self-esteem is to work on your boundaries with the world around you. This means developing the ability to know your self apart from those around you. You really don’t have to take everything personally. You can evaluate whether someone is speaking the truth before taking it inside and having feelings about it.

Imagine yourself mentally slowing the conversation down. As the words come out of your partner’s mouth, first pause, then consider their truth. Are the words true about you, or, are they really a personal perspective that says more about how this person sees the world?

The difficult part is that you will discover a seed of truth in most of these discussions. However, having one part of the sentence or paragraph reflect truth does not make the whole thing true. What is true, and what is the other person’s “spin?”

Once you’ve discovered the other person’s perspective, notice the emotions you begin to have. I’ll bet these feelings derive from your own “spin” on the world. Do you believe that your perspectives are the whole truth of things? Not likely. So, back down the power of those feelings. Be responsible for your own perspective.

Good boundaries are meant to protect you from the other person’s “stuff” slopping over onto you. In addition, they are also meant to protect the other person from your “stuff” slopping over onto them. It’s both protection and containment. You get to take responsibility for yourself by practicing both.

The cool part?

You discover deep down that you actually have a self to esteem. You’re not open to every poke the world sends your way. And, you are responsible about not sending pokes back out to the world. Feel some pride. You’re beginning to do a good job of taking care of yourself.

Boundaries 102

You can begin to see that boundaries have a lot to do with being responsible for self-care.

Self-care includes the food we eat, our exercise and the time we take for ourselves. It’s also clothes, dental and medical care, and mental hygiene. Everything that goes into keeping us healthy has a boundary component.

As adults we are individually responsible to make sure these needs are well taken care of. It is not appropriate to expect someone else to take care of them for us. We may need help to get them met, but it is not the other person’s responsibility. It is ours.

If I need a hug, it is my job to ask for one. My partner may or may not be open to give me one. It can be delightful if that hug is available. If it is not, then it is still my responsibility to find a way to meet my need. My care is my job.

Got it?

Don’t fall into the romance trap. It feels wonderful to have your partner anticipate your needs and to feel like the two of you are “joined at the hip.” But, if it continues this way your feeling of self worth will start to depend on him or her, not on you. It’s only a matter of time before it gets damaged.

So stay real.

You can enjoy your partner while holding yourself accountable for your own self esteem. All it takes is attention to a self-responsible perspective. It’s not exactly easy, but then, what is when it comes to relationships?

Dear Pastor,

There is probably no reason to tell you. You already know that folks in Colorado suffer the doldrums in January, February, and March. The holidays are past, the daylight is still in short supply, and problems that have been put off tend to surface again.

It’s no surprise that the day children return to school in January is the day of the year with the most divorce filings.

So, I’m offering this reminder to be on the watch for people in stress. Clearly, the depression and anxiety will be worse this year due to the economy.

The metaphor I always use is this: whatever it was that folks were holding out hope for, it didn’t show up in a box on Christmas. And now they realize it. Both children and adults hold unconscious expectations that Christmas will somehow make things better. And then they discover that the same old problems are still there:

Trouble with siblings
Marriage arguments
Searching for a job
Risk of being laid off
Ill relatives
Caretaker fatigue

You know the signs. It’s just that some people hide them better than others. Then, when things go wrong we are surprised.

The watching of Advent is past, but I encourage you to watch in a different way now. Now is when the discouragement creeps back in for so many. Some will show this on Sunday mornings, some will not. Especially watch those regular church attenders who are not attending regularly.

Yes, I encourage you to bear this in mind in your sermons, but also realize the need for pastoral care services, both your visits and therapy appointments. It will be difficult for folks to justify the cost of counseling at this time, but helping them to count the later emotional cost is important.

While I hope that you use my staff and myself for your referrals, I mostly desire all to receive the care they need regardless of where it comes from. (If you’re not in my region, perhaps my website can be of help: WhatWorksForCouples.com)

The emotional high (and the pastoral exhaustion) of Christmas is now past, and the serious pastoral work begins again. May the compassion, grace and presence of Christ fill you now!

There is so much I wish to accomplish. I have so many ideas I’ll never get to. Thought after thought whirl around my head. I am ADD. That means Attention Deficit Disorder with no hyperactivity included. My head whirls, but my actions do little for accomplishing my desires.

I wish to put my Beloved, Pam, first in my life. Then, I wish to get an article written for you. Next I desire to create a small project that will lead to residual income. Along the way, I stop at the tire store, my secretary asks a question, a note catches my eye reminding me to print some paperwork for a client, and then I wonder what it was I wished to focus on today.

Perhaps you feel the power of these pressures in your life? You probably don’t even have ADD/ADHD. It’s just the holiday season added to the fast pace of daily life. Where did you lose your sense of purpose? How did you lose focus on those simple goals?

I can become so frustrated with the process that I cease to even make those goals. What’s the use? I never get to them anyway. What a discouraging process.

Fortunately, there are answers.

For many people the art of goal setting really works. The marvelous organizing materials of Steven Covey come to mind. One makes a list of desires, then forms priorities, and finally works this list, checking off finished items and moving unfinished ones to the next day’s list. Just google “goal setting” and you’ll find all you need to make it work.

Of course, it might not work for you. It doesn’t for me. At least, not very well.

I find it hard to explain, but once I’ve made my list of what I want, it becomes dead ink and paper. No life left in it. The life is inside me moving on to the next thought and the next desire.

It is helpful to me to make such a list. It gets the clutter out of my head. But then I rarely look at the paper again. Goals must be alive for me, or my thoughts move on.

What works?

I find that some focusing meditation helps me.

There are traditional ways of “focusing meditation,” all of which are helpful. However, I find that just a simple process works well for me:

I close the door, sit quietly, allow the dirty energy (a visualization) to drain out of me into the cleansing of Mother Earth, breathe deeply, and ask my guides (or however you refer to the sacred) to remind me of who I am, what my purpose is about, and at the very least, what I might next apply myself to.

That’s where this article came from. Call it intuition, magic, or just a simple focusing technique, the words began to flow and I grabbed my laptop. The same process might work for you. Or, it might not. We all must experiment to discover what is best for each of us. For those of us that are ADD/ADHD this can be especially true. Whatever works for everyone else rarely works for us. We need to shape and reshape our process until we discover what works for us individually.

And when I’m finished with the article? I stand up, look around, am immediately distracted by something else, and later in the day, by force of will I place this article on my blog or submit it to an article directory. Sometimes, brute force of will is all that finishes a project for me.

Does this sound familiar? In yourself, or someone you know? It’s certainly familiar to my wife, who has spent 30 years adjusting to this silly man she married. I’m quite fortunate she stuck around, don’t you think?

Most couples get together because they’re “in love.” Most couples have real challenges when they “fall into fear.” Fear breeds competition, arguments, suspicion, blaming and ego centered behavior.

I can testify to people’s present fear given my own practice. It is not what is happening, but what is NOT happening. People have stopped calling in for therapy. Very unusual for a well established therapist. And my colleages say the same thing. My dentist also is hurting. All over people offering important services are not being accessed because people are scared. Folks are holding onto their dollars and putting off whatever they can.

And, I can’t blame them. I’m doing the same!

However, it can get troublesome. When couples are merely afraid about money their relationship suffers. When someone loses a job things can get really difficult. Behaviors or quirks that were non-issues can suddenly take on new emphasis. Low level disputes become huge arguments. Intimacy, both emotional and physical, can suffer new lows.

No need to describe it further. You understand. We all do. At such a time it is certainly appropriate to continue working on the quality of the relationship, but let’s be real, our real focus is food on the table, clothes for the kids, and paying that inverted mortgage.

So, what to do?

I learned an important insight in moving to my present location in 1991. I immediately began building a counseling practice. It came along slowly as they all tend to do. I made headway. I gained a client here and there. However, the hardest thing was my sense of being non-productive.

I had spent years learning and training, and now I sat on my hands. I became increasingly depressed, feeling further and further separated from my wife and her excitement over her new job. Thankfully, after about 6 months, things really picked up in my work and I got on with life. But I learned my lesson about being productive.

It may be mostly a male thing, but I’ve seen it in women, as well. It’s not so much the money, but the feeling of being useless. We all need the sense that we are making a difference in the world. With a job loss, or even finances getting tight, we easily can fall into the worthless trap. We feel as though we’re no longer good enough. Time stretches on and we become immobilized. And, our partners can do very little for us but look on in sympathy, frustration or even anger.

Let’s avoid this with some simple but difficult action. Let’s do something that’s keeps us feeling productive and makes a few dollars at the same time.

Idea #1: It has become a common thing to sell stuff on Ebay. Most people, if they haven’t done this themselves, know someone who has. My secretary makes some regular money on ebay. Her main job is in our office, but she is always looking for things she can sell for just a little more than she paid. She sets up an auction, and ships the products when it is over. Time consuming, but fairly simple.

Her best 3 months were this summer when she grossed over $2000 per month. Part of this was selling some things around the house she no longer wanted, like the old china. She figures that, after expenses, she made about $1500/month. Can she do that ever month? No. Afterall, we keep her busy in the office. But this is a great way to feel occupied and productive when jobs are tough to find, and the budget is very tight.

Idea #2: I know a homeless man living in a shelter that is doing yardwork for $25 per hour. He simply advertised in our local paper. People are trying to get their yards ready for winter. With a little negotiation on his part, they are having him rake and bag leaves, clean gutters and generally clean up for them. Many are not-quite-elderly, but past their physical prime. This man is now anticipating offering his services to this same population for removing their snow from sidewalks and driveways. They only thing I would encourage him to add to his program is the free advertising on Craig’s List. If you’re not familiar with this nationwide free ad service just google it.

Idea #3: I was commuting to work this week when it occurred to me that many people are going to be looking for affordable Christmas presents this year. They won’t be using the charge cards with abandon this time around.

If you are familiar with looking for bargains at thrift stores and pawn shops, you could advertise your services to find these affordable Christmas presents. Ask for a reasonable finders fee and provide a very valuable service to hard pressed folks. Sounds like a win-win solution to me.

The key to these ideas is to get moving and beat the depression and anxiety of these times. We need not allow our relationships to succumb to these troubling times. My ideas are certainly just short term solutions (although some people can make them into real businesses), but they get at the heart of the non-productivity that robs us of our strength.

So, be productive, and make a few bucks along the way.

I’ve been reading the most recent of Caroline Myss’ books, “Entering the Castle.” (2007) It is intended to give a spiritual path to seekers. The central inspiration for the book is Teresa of Avila’s sixteenth century work, “The Interior Castle.”

Already I have to stop and reflect. From page 36:

“That is the mystic’s life purpose - to know his or her soul and put it to use in a spiritually radical form of service to others. And mysticism is spiritually radical. For one thing, you enter into a realm of consciousness that is truly “extra” ordinary. Second, your interior life becomes more valid, more real than your exterior life.”

I am struck that I am in the midst of pursuing this “extra” ordinary experience, but my exterior life so frequently is far more real than my interior life. This may also be the case for you.

I get tangled in my expectations that I must produce a secure financial lifestyle, so that I may retreat into some kind of quiet realm. Still, the world is all around me, and Teresa of Avila observed, “God lives also among the pots and pans.” Instead of retreating, I may be called to find my retreat within the hustle and bustle of life.

Another passage that stopped me is this: “I’ve watched people chat away their grace, so to speak. They discuss their spiritual lives as casually as family matters or sports.” She advises far more silence about your spiritual life: “Contain your experience with the divine so that it does not escape you but rather reshapes you.”

I must confess that when spiritual experience comes upon me I wish to shout with joy, or at the very least tell the nearest person of my good fortune. The joy bubbles over. Still, there is the memory of my mentor telling workshop participants not to share their growth experience for a full day or more after the workshop. This way they might allow it to do its full work within them. Perhaps I must be more careful with the power working its way through my internal life?

Finally, the author states that, “people are starving for this awe and for the sacred. This is why people make pilgrimages to sacred sites and participate in sacred rituals from various native traditions. They want to touch, see, and feel the sacred.”

It is my experience that people come to me searching for something far deeper than a better marriage, or more satisfaction in life. Rarely do they know it at first, but they want this deeper connection that gives meaning and clarity to their experience. But they do not find it in the hurry-up bustle of the world around them. They have no sense of discovering their deeper purpose in this life, and frequently expect that there is no wonder and awe left for them.

“This is why the mystics and I suggest, no insist that you have a spiritual practice, a discipline in which every day something is expected of you as an individual.”

I am very much looking forward to the rest of the book. I am expectant about what it will teach me and what inspirations it will trigger.

If you are so inclined, read along with me, Click Here=>  Entering the Castle

I. Experience

Recently we renamed our counseling and education center. We now call it “Centered Life.” When we speak to people about what our new name means we often have difficulty describing what it is to live a “centered life.” Some folks seem to easily know what this is about, and some really don’t get it.

My wife, Pam, and I recently had an experience that may help. We were part way up Cottonwood Pass outside of Buena Vista, Colorado. It was a glorious Fall day with a light breeze, warm sunshine, and the smell of fallen aspen leaves. Sitting and lying upon these leaves beside a small mountain brook while looking through graceful but bare aspen limbs was idealic. The moments stretched on. There was nowhere else we wished to be. We were smack, dab in the middle of God’s Creation and it just couldn’t get any better than that. It was timeless. It was spacious. It was Grace manifest. I felt my invisible roots reach deep into the earth, following the mountain moisture as it seeped through the rocks and soil beneath me. I felt my spirit sour, through the aspen branches, into the blue sky to mix with wispy clouds. Rooted; at peace; knowing exactly who I am. Centered.

I have imagined and remembered these moments many times since. How I wish I could maintain this clear perspective when stressed or afraid. That would really be centered life!

II. Explanation

Centered Life means maintaining a close relationship with our calm, inner center, which knows inner peace amidst the busyness of everyday life. In this peace we know clarity, focus, and balance. Some call this the Soul that rests in God’s presence.

As a spiritual community, alive in a fractured, fragmented world, we bring the hope of this centered calmness to individuals and to the faith communities we serve, believing that knowing ourselves deeply is basic to knowing others. This knowledge of self rests upon an acceptance of our own humanity, which then leads us to accept the many differences represented in the human family.

A truly centered life means we know the inner stability that allows openness to the continual change all around us, openness even to the changes that challenge our notions of spirituality, group loyalties and expectations of how the future should unfold.

III. My Prayer

We seek to be well-centered people, standing firmly on a clear, inner foundation. May we know who we are as spiritual beings. May we clearly know our thoughts, feelings and values. Regardless of internal or external pressures, who we are with, or what events might befall us, may we be true to our heart felt purpose in life to be who we are truly meant to be.

May our attempt at living centered lives never become a creed, but remain always a sense of deep relationship to self and others that connects one soul to another in God’s life-giving Spirit.

There is an old saying that there are only two emotions in the universe: Love and Fear. All the other emotions are really a form of one of these two.  If this is the case, then whatever we do, we are either Loving or Fearing. Which is more familiar to you?

We have ample enough reasons to be caught up in fear:

·    Crises on Wall, with many banks threatened.
·    Housing values way, way down. No home equity to use as a fallback plan.
·    Unemployment is rising and the stories from people we know tell that jobs are tough to find.
·    Children growing up now will be the first American generation to not do better than their parents.
·    Retirement seems a long way off and not at all certain.
·    Gas prices are much better, but we know they’ll go up again.

Next to these economic woes we can list a myriad of others: global warming, war in the Middle East, and a resurgent Russian threat of Cold War aggressiveness.  Of course, let’s not forget how many are without health insurance, living below the poverty line, or the deterioration of education for our children. And, my personal favorite complaint, that tells the story of this lousy old world, “I’m just so tired with all the keepin’ on keepin’ on.”

As one who has prepared many sermons in the past, I am well aware of first establishing the existence of the Bad News, so that people are suitably impressed by the Good News. However, I am struck at just how easy it is to name such bad news in these trying times.

As we watch the news and consider inflation creeping up on us, are we Fearing or Loving? As we send young men and women overseas with weapons, do we Love or Fear? And, are we Fearing or Loving when we come home emotionally drained, seeking avoidance through food, drink, TV, or the computer? Am I fearing or loving as that driver up ahead (the Jerk!) swerves into my lane?

People have always had their worries and problems, but modern life has certainly brought an accelerated version of them. Wouldn’t it be nice if I had a wonderful, upbeat answer for us?

Uh-oh, maybe I shouldn’t have begun this article. All the good answers have already been taken. We had the greatest bull market in the history of the world from 1982 to 2000. The Iron curtain crumbled, and we bought lots and lots of stuff. Then real estate took off for the moon and we bought more stuff.

There have been so many advances, so many incredible changes in the world around us. They have brought excitement, often joy with all their wonder, and hope for a better world. But have they made us better, more Loving people?

Truth is, there is only one tried and true thing I’ve seen that creates more Love than Fear. And, it doesn’t always work. In my counseling office we try to speed up the process, but the inevitable cure for Fear is often the passing of the years.

It’s certainly no guarantee, but the years piling up do have a way of giving us perspective. Sure, we worry about how to pay for our elder years, but often we come to realize how little our worries our worth.

Does it really matter in the end how much the groceries cost? Does it really matter which army pushes the other around? Well, yes, it does matter to some extent. We care who gets hurt, and what is happening to our world. But when we finally look back we may not care nearly so much. We’ll see such things as having been endured or dealt with, and notice that they helped to mature us, or they didn’t. We’re likely to regret that we worried so much about such things. We’ll probably wish we had worried less, and used the extra energy for loving family, friends, and the life all around us.

Loving. What a nice notion. Let’s get started on this road right away.

Perhaps I could love that jerk that cut me off in traffic! I could remember that he is on his own path of growth and discovery, just as I am, and occasionally such paths intersect in uncomfortable ways. I might note that such stressful living will help him learn something, even though it may come by way of a traffic ticket or a painful accident. And certainly I can remind myself that I love myself too much to give up my peacefulness due to some bozo, err, errant driver.

I’m not getting “holier than thou” on you here. Such loving would be a stretch for me. Still, I can let myself be aware of the possibility. Perhaps in my better moments I can try it out. Perhaps you can, too.

I certainly can try it out with some hope, because our spiritual selves are endowed with the capacity to love. Love is not something we must conjure up. It is just waiting there to be called forth and expressed. We are natural lovers. It is only our ego’s fear of hurt and loss that creates blocks to this Love within us. Some traditions call this ego the “small self,” where as the “big self” refers to the soul.

To expose the narrow perception of fear that the small self creates, we can ask ourselves now and then, whether we are Fearing or Loving. It’s that simple. Are we Fearing or Loving?

It’s not easy to change once we see it, but it is rather simple to observe. Are we Loving or Fearing? Once we recognize the fear, we have the opportunity to choose love. If we never clearly recognize the fear, we probably won’t see the chance for love either. So, recognition is the first step. Then making the choice to actually love, comes next.

Actually, I’m not such a bad lover of those I already respect. They can make a mis-step and it doesn’t throw me. I bet the same is true for you. It is those Others I have the trouble with: the stranger, the hot-head, the alien, and perhaps the other political party.

Perhaps I can extend myself to love even these folks. Not at first, of course, but after I’ve caught myself in my fear, maybe I’ll be humble enough. Perhaps you will, too?

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